Some people say you need to take responsibility for your life, and others say the playing field is not level. It will never be completely level, because some parents have more resources and expertise. They will always give their children the biggest advantage they can. It is driven by love. I would not want to live in a world without it. This country is much more fair then the media would have you believe. That is why people want to come here. They believe hard work will pay off unlike in their home country. Elsewhere, your last name is all that matters.
I do not believe that I am limited by my father, so why should you? There are many examples of children that have outdone their parents, sometimes in dramatic fashion. If you want to break the pattern, then you will need to find some new people to learn from. It is not about equality of outcome. It is about equality of opportunity. In today’s world, you have all the information you need at your fingertips. There are many people that are paying it forward. Focus on the things you can control and influence. If you worry too much about the rest, you will just end up frustrated.
The key is to spend your free time on education instead of entertainment. Learning should not stop when you leave school. The fun part is just getting started, because you can focus on things that are applicable to what you want to do. If it is a topic that fascinates you, then it won’t even feel like work. Of course, it will take years to master it. Learning is exponential. The more you know, the more you get out of the next piece of information. Don’t be afraid to start over somewhere else. It is very difficult to get in the top 1% of one field. If you can get in the top 20% of two or more, then you are a rare bird. The combinations often make people unstoppable. It also makes people more humble, because they understand how much they don’t know. I am already a master of five domains, and I have one or two years of experience in another five.
College is not the only way to learn, especially in today’s world. The stuff I learned outside of school is way more valuable. A degree is just a way to quickly prove that you know something. Often, you only use a small percentage of it, if any at all. It is more proof that you know how to learn and that you can stick to a long-term goal. I have a PhD in hardware, and yet I spent my entire career in software. I literally do rocket science, and I am completely self taught. Of course, I had many good role models to learn from.
It is very simple. The people that know the most make the most, and half of what you know will be obsolete in 5 years. If you know the right people, you can vastly accelerate it, but you can’t fake it. Some people are using the Internet to learn. What do you think happens to people that use it for entertainment and distraction? They fall behind. Read non-fiction, so you can learn from the mistakes of others. Warren Buffet reads 5 hours a day. Don’t underestimate the power of networking. Don’t try to figure out everything yourself. Find good leaders and mentors to learn from. Be humble enough to ask for advice. Make mistakes of your own, so that you gain experience.